House Call With Kate Arends

House Call With Kate Arends

When Home Doesn’t Feel Like Home

And what to do about it.

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Kate Arends
Sep 26, 2024
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Our homes say nothing about our goodness, our wholeness, or our worthiness of rest, love, and compassion. They serve their purpose most impactfully during our cycles of ups and downs.

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Confession time. I get a little thrill when packing my daily schedule too tight. I will complain about it like my hands are tied, as though I had no say in saying “yes” to it all. 

But I secretly delight in it. 

I feel important when I have obligations and long to-do lists. I feel like the day is mine to save. I think I can juggle it and make it work. I even get a little high, not knowing if I can handle it all.

I love it because it leaves little time to unwind.

I love it because it leaves little time to face myself.

I love it because it leaves little room to be anything but the hero in the mess I created. 

I love it because it leaves little room to unravel. 

One Sunday morning, the crux of this conundrum presented itself.

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