This gutted me in the truest way: “Delighting in others' safety and comfort can be wonderful, but it can also keep us from the truth of our needs, wants, and desires. And we cannot give the people who love us the opportunity to fully connect if we hold the true parts of ourselves hostage.”
I was literally having this conversation yesterday with a best friend... I stepped up in a big way when she had her first baby two years ago, and seemingly decided to adopt the babysitter/dog watcher/food maker role and totally abandoned the friendship role, because I thought it would make her feel guilty vocalizing my need for play and fun and lightness, because she was so busy. But really, we BOTH wanted that, and she felt neglected too. And it was confusing and hard and painful, but the conversation was had and the new intentions were set.
So thank you for drawing attention to this and writing yet another beautifully timed newsletter 💗
This gutted me in the truest way: “Delighting in others' safety and comfort can be wonderful, but it can also keep us from the truth of our needs, wants, and desires. And we cannot give the people who love us the opportunity to fully connect if we hold the true parts of ourselves hostage.”
I was literally having this conversation yesterday with a best friend... I stepped up in a big way when she had her first baby two years ago, and seemingly decided to adopt the babysitter/dog watcher/food maker role and totally abandoned the friendship role, because I thought it would make her feel guilty vocalizing my need for play and fun and lightness, because she was so busy. But really, we BOTH wanted that, and she felt neglected too. And it was confusing and hard and painful, but the conversation was had and the new intentions were set.
So thank you for drawing attention to this and writing yet another beautifully timed newsletter 💗
I love that bed frame! I'm on the hunt for something but need one that is compatible with an adjustable platform and the struggle is real.
The people pleaser in me left the building when I turned 42 and I felt so proud until I realized it was perimenopause 😂😂😂🤷🏻♀️❤️❤️❤️